CHANCES at the MCA
Queer dance night Chances Dances hosted First Friday at the Museum of Contemporary Art in Chicago this past week. It was a glorious event with amazing performances, drag, all sorts of gender expressions, my favorite people. What a wonderful place for all of us to see each other and hang out - dancing and wandering around beautiful art and a gorgeous building.
I was really excited to see a whole Alexander Calder room. As many of you know, I have a Calder drawing tattooed on my forearm. I adore his work and was really happy to see the beautiful display.
This post isn’t really so much about the outfit as it is about just sharing this amazing evening, but I do think I looked pretty cute regardless. This new Kate Moss Rimmel Matte Lipstick #107 is my favorite new lip. I get so many compliments on it.
Animal print tux jacket - Target - XXL
Sheer White Shirt with gold buttons - Forever 21 - 2XL
Black Skinny Jeans - Style & Co - 16
Black/metallic oxfords - Clarks UK
Bag - Vince Camuto
Glasses - SEE
Necklace - Forever 21
Hoop earrings - Target
I’ve been wanting to do a weekly wrap-up post feature for a while now. I hope to make this a thing - let’s see how I do*!
The holidays and shopping are fun for me. Did you buy anything fun for yourself? I bought myself some Dream Cream from LUSH and some new black skinny jeans from Macys.
bitchtopia writes about Torrid’s rebranding - disappointing that they’re pushing away their “alternative” clients and employees
*Not well so far apparently - hah! I intended to post this on Friday.
Casual Sunday Morning in my TwoJs Wings Vest
A chilly sunday morning and I wanted a fun layer to wear to brunch. This great cotton blend piece from TwoJs is a perfect piece to layer up. I love that it can really be worn a million ways. It’s technically “one size fits most” - but I think will likely fit up to a plus size 20 or so, depending on how you like things to fit.
A chilly fall day just calls for an outfit that is layered and comfortable. And I’m on my way to Bang Bang Pie to eat some of their delicious biscuits with vegetarian gravy. Doesn’t that just sound amazing?
Wings Vest from TwoJ’s NY - One size - Available here
Black top - Forever 21+, 2X
Black Jeans - Target, 16
Necklace - Forever 21
Herkimer quartz ring - etsy
Stacked gold hammered rings - Meadowbelle Market (they make custom sizes!)
Porcupine quill earrings - etsy
Metallic leather Brogues - Clarks UK
Glasses - SEE Eyewear
The words we use are incredibly important. I know this. Thick, curvy, voluptuous, rubenesque…these are all terms that our society uses for FAT because people are uncomfortable with that word. So using the word “thick” doesn’t change the fact that I am fat. I wear plus size clothes (my pants size ranges from 16-20). If we’re going by BMI standards (which we shouldn’t) I’m obese (cue the faux horror).
I fully recognize that I’m on the smaller side of fat and that being on the smaller side of fat means that I have a bit of privilege and more clothing options. But that doesn’t make me not fat. I’m 220 pounds. I’ve been 50 pounds more, I’ve been 50 pounds less in my adult life. That’s just how my body rolls. hah. rolls. I’ve got them. no really I do. and I love them. But just because some of my photos and clothes don’t show off every curve and roll doesn’t mean they’re not there. My chunk. My fat. My body and the space it takes up are still here.
So while I do appreciate your desire for different language, I will still continue to use the word fat to describe myself. Policing people’s language, especially regarding their bodies is a complicated game. I also appreciate the opportunity to discuss it and the fact that I am the size I am now - I have avoided talking about the fact that I did get really sick last year and did lose some weight, but I honestly didn’t think it would be an issue for my readers since
1) I’m still fat
2) I still wear plus size clothes
3) I’m still am a huge advocate for body positivity and HAES
Hey folks - I’ll be traveling next month to Berlin and London.
Do I have any readers that live there or who have spent significant time in either? I’m hoping to find some tips on shopping and such!
In Berlin I’m staying in the Mitte area
In London I’m staying near Camden Town
I have many days in each city - so your ideas of what to do for an entire day are welcome!!!