September 6, 2014 - My Wedding
It’s been almost a year of planning and the event moved from Chicago to Houston and so many crazy things happened, but we got hitched!
S and i spent a week at my family’s “ranch” in a tiny town outside of Houston prepping in the 90 degree weather for our weekend wedding. It was such hard work - but the results were stunning. My parent’s backyard was transformed into a wonderland.
I originally purchased a dress from Alfred Angelo, but decided it was too much for the backyard affair and I ended up buying this dress which I used for our Queer Femme Wedding photoshoot this spring from ModCloth. I just adore this dress - the subtle tone, the light fabric, the sparkles. It set off nicely against S’s navy windowpane suit from topman.
“Instructions For Life In The New Millennium by the 14th Dalai Lama”
Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
And that a loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
Be gentle with the earth, be gentle with one another.
When disagreements come remember always to protect the spirit of your union.
When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
So love yourselves, love one another, love all that is your life together and all else will follow.
For the afterparty at our favorite goth(ish) club Numbers, I wore another modcloth dress - this one in white with a Zana Bayne harness and a black veil.
It was a perfect day - one I will never forget. And now I’m recuperating back at home - trying to catch up on sleep and just feel rested. We aren’t taking our honeymoon until February, so for now it’s just looking forward to that.
Details of the day
Afterparty dress “Just sway the word” - Sz 1X via ModCloth (I’m selling this one for $70 if you’re interested - message me)
Harness - Zana Bayne Petite Harness in Black (custom size)
Black and Gold Veil - made from vintage scarf purchased from PreSouled
Professional photos above by R.S. Photography in Houston TX (additional photos by friends)
Last June, I sat in a room filled with plus size bloggers listening and talking to folks at ModCloth about rebooting/ growing their plus size line. I was thrilled at the possibility of more plus size clothing options, but wary - we fat folks heard this before. And despite talking about it online and among ourselves, it seemed that a lot of retailers hadn’t been listening. But ModCloth wanted to know our thoughts - they did the research and knew that 88% of plus size women agree that they would buy more clothing if trendy options were available.
Thank you to ModCloth for listening to us. I have been absolutely thrilled with the products they have produced this past year. And it’s only going to continue. Recently, I featured some of their wonderful bridal and bridal party plus size items in my recent Femme Wedding post.
For the ModCloth Plus size Anniversary, I’m giving away a $100 ModCloth gift certificate. To enter: Follow InTheThickofIt and Reblog this post and include a link or image of your favorite piece in the ModCloth Plus Size Collection. Winner will be chosen at random from reblog responses on Monday 6/30/2014 at 10:00am CST and posted on Thickofit.com
Here are a few of my current favorites
The Fat Femme Wedding
Spring is here again and it’s time to share some plus size, queer femme, wedded bliss. The four of us (myself, Lauren, Kelly, and Rachel) had a lovely time modeling some gorgeous plus size ModCloth wedding and bridesmaid gowns.
The union took place on a cool spring day in a Logan Square park. We were surprised by a sweet kitty who joined us for some photos. After the ceremony, we headed to adorable local bakery Paper Moon Bakery for vegan treats and enjoyed the beautiful floral and succulent centerpieces.
It was a perfect day. Fantastical Chicago-local floral designers Green and Gold provided the beautiful hair pieces, shoulder piece and centerpieces. Hairstylist Anna Jackson did a gorgeous job styling our lovely locks. MUA and nail designer Gina ‘Gigi’ Lira made our faces look even more delightful with her custom lip colors (I NEED MINE IN A TUBE - it’s the most perfect shade of purple pink!). Nail polish was provided by fat femme indie nail polish brand PLUMP (colors Fupa and Crop Top Goth)
Adrift on a Cloud white lace dress - Sz 24 (this dress runs quite small!), Modcloth
Waxed Denim Moto Jacket - Sz 16, H&M
Crystal Crown Tiara - ManIsFive
Tights - Sz 1x, Target
Black Doc Martens, model’s own
Glitz & Enamor blush sequin dress - Sz 24, Modcloth
Martha’s Ride No. 2 pearl bracelet, King Onye
Hair jewelry - Frond and On Necklace, Modcloth
Silver wedges - model’s own
Floral Shoulder piece - Green and Gold
All Over Elegance cream chiffon and lace dress - Sz 14, Modcloth
Rose Quartz necklace - LovelyMusings Etsy
Snake Arm Band - model’s own
Lace Tights - model’s own
Floral Doc Martens - model’s own
Floral headpiece - Green and Gold
All the details
- Kelly’s art tumblr. Kelly’s curation tumblr. Kelly’s band.
- Rachel’s high-praised food blog, Dinner Was Delicious.
- Lauren’s art portfolio and personal tumblr
- I think you all know me, Amanda but you should follow my instagram!
A mix of retro and modern is a fun way to enjoy the beach this summer.
Check out this Wanelo story I created with some adorable Modcloth pieces - this cute plus size cherry-print swimsuit comes in a variety of sizes up to 26. I’ve paired it with black/white accessories and gold jewelry. And sometimes you like to put your cherries away, so there’s a great cute plus size black sheer cover-up with cut-outs for a sweet beach look.
The Plus Size Bride
Many of you know by now that I am getting hitched this year! It’s a big huge thing that is taking up so much of my time, but it’s also really beautiful to plan an experience that encompasses the union that my partner and I share.
I totally get that marriage is a complicated thing - it’s an event steeped in a lot of traditions that I as a queer person, I don’t connect with. But there are some important things like making a commitment to my partner and the sharing of home and kids (which I know TECHNICALLY you don’t need to be married for) that I am really excited about. Getting married makes a lot of things (legal mostly) easier.
But let’s get to the fun stuff. I’m in a flurry of planning. I’ve already gone through a slew of pinterest boards which I know a few of you follow. With all my research, I started a specific plus size bride (and bridesmaid) board that I felt a lot of you would really love. When I first started searching, I felt like there were just no options, but when I started really digging - I found so many wonderful designs out there up to size 30 (and lots of custom-size gowns too). As always, I kept everything pretty budget-friendly. I’m pretty sure every dress I pinned with 2 exceptions is well under $1000.
I will of course continue to add to to this board and my other wedding boards as I plan. We are having a big backyard wedding with 4 of our bests (all women) standing with us. I’m so excited about it all and can’t wait to share the photos from the big day and the entire experience with all of you.
Above are some dresses I tried at David’s Bridal that I ended up NOT getting, but I wanted to just show some fun try-on shots! It was a great experience to go with a few of my pals and just make an evening of it.
Edited to add, I really fell in love with Alfred Angelo and I’m super impressed that they do not charge ANY extra for plus size gowns up to size 26W. Just a huge awesome shout out to them.