How do you stay strong and body-positive when there’s an entire world out there that is filled with self-loathing, that is bombarding us with images of over-photoshopped models, that worships a fashion industry that spews hate and disdain for plus size bodies?
I am here to say that the fashion industry should be held accountable for both ignoring plus size bodies and by saying hateful things about plus size bodies. I am happy to see brands like ModCloth taking a stand against photoshopping models I’m encouraged by ModCloth and indie brands that are selling more sizes and using a diverse array of body types to advertise their clothes. It’s important to see a variety of body types represented. Studies show that 65% of women say that they “never” or “rarely” see their body type represented in fashion advertising. No wonder so many plus size women feel self-concious about their outfits and their bodies.
Fashion industry: plus size bodies are beautiful, they exist and they want to be represented in advertising and have clothing available to them.
And to my fellow plus size women, I want to encourage you to remember every day the following things regardless of what you see in magazines or online:
1) YOU ARE WORTHY of beautiful clothes in YOUR SIZE. Continue to ask retailers to carry your size. Don’t shop at places that have responded negatively to requests for plus size options.
2) YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AS YOU ARE. Avoid comparisons to others, spend time daily working on your self-esteem. Avoid self-pity and self-deprecation (don’t speak negatively about yourself). Sing "Flawless" in the mirror if you need a boost or write encouraging quotes and post them on your mirror.
3) REACH OUT. No one is perfect and we all have bad days. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need encouragement or perhaps you can seek body-positive counseling. If you’re in a styling rut, reach out to a plus size fashion blogger or stylist for some advice.
September 6, 2014 - My Wedding
It’s been almost a year of planning and the event moved from Chicago to Houston and so many crazy things happened, but we got hitched!
S and i spent a week at my family’s “ranch” in a tiny town outside of Houston prepping in the 90 degree weather for our weekend wedding. It was such hard work - but the results were stunning. My parent’s backyard was transformed into a wonderland.
I originally purchased a dress from Alfred Angelo, but decided it was too much for the backyard affair and I ended up buying this dress which I used for our Queer Femme Wedding photoshoot this spring from ModCloth. I just adore this dress - the subtle tone, the light fabric, the sparkles. It set off nicely against S’s navy windowpane suit from topman.
“Instructions For Life In The New Millennium by the 14th Dalai Lama”
Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
And that a loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
Be gentle with the earth, be gentle with one another.
When disagreements come remember always to protect the spirit of your union.
When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
So love yourselves, love one another, love all that is your life together and all else will follow.
For the afterparty at our favorite goth(ish) club Numbers, I wore another modcloth dress - this one in white with a Zana Bayne harness and a black veil.
It was a perfect day - one I will never forget. And now I’m recuperating back at home - trying to catch up on sleep and just feel rested. We aren’t taking our honeymoon until February, so for now it’s just looking forward to that.
Details of the day
Afterparty dress “Just sway the word” - Sz 1X via ModCloth (I’m selling this one for $70 if you’re interested - message me)
Harness - Zana Bayne Petite Harness in Black (custom size)
Black and Gold Veil - made from vintage scarf purchased from PreSouled
Professional photos above by R.S. Photography in Houston TX (additional photos by friends)
Last June, I sat in a room filled with plus size bloggers listening and talking to folks at ModCloth about rebooting/ growing their plus size line. I was thrilled at the possibility of more plus size clothing options, but wary - we fat folks heard this before. And despite talking about it online and among ourselves, it seemed that a lot of retailers hadn’t been listening. But ModCloth wanted to know our thoughts - they did the research and knew that 88% of plus size women agree that they would buy more clothing if trendy options were available.
Thank you to ModCloth for listening to us. I have been absolutely thrilled with the products they have produced this past year. And it’s only going to continue. Recently, I featured some of their wonderful bridal and bridal party plus size items in my recent Femme Wedding post.
For the ModCloth Plus size Anniversary, I’m giving away a $100 ModCloth gift certificate. To enter: Follow InTheThickofIt and Reblog this post and include a link or image of your favorite piece in the ModCloth Plus Size Collection. Winner will be chosen at random from reblog responses on Monday 6/30/2014 at 10:00am CST and posted on Thickofit.com
Here are a few of my current favorites
The Fat Femme Wedding
Spring is here again and it’s time to share some plus size, queer femme, wedded bliss. The four of us (myself, Lauren, Kelly, and Rachel) had a lovely time modeling some gorgeous plus size ModCloth wedding and bridesmaid gowns.
The union took place on a cool spring day in a Logan Square park. We were surprised by a sweet kitty who joined us for some photos. After the ceremony, we headed to adorable local bakery Paper Moon Bakery for vegan treats and enjoyed the beautiful floral and succulent centerpieces.
It was a perfect day. Fantastical Chicago-local floral designers Green and Gold provided the beautiful hair pieces, shoulder piece and centerpieces. Hairstylist Anna Jackson did a gorgeous job styling our lovely locks. MUA and nail designer Gina ‘Gigi’ Lira made our faces look even more delightful with her custom lip colors (I NEED MINE IN A TUBE - it’s the most perfect shade of purple pink!). Nail polish was provided by fat femme indie nail polish brand PLUMP (colors Fupa and Crop Top Goth)
Adrift on a Cloud white lace dress - Sz 24 (this dress runs quite small!), Modcloth
Waxed Denim Moto Jacket - Sz 16, H&M
Crystal Crown Tiara - ManIsFive
Tights - Sz 1x, Target
Black Doc Martens, model’s own
Glitz & Enamor blush sequin dress - Sz 24, Modcloth
Martha’s Ride No. 2 pearl bracelet, King Onye
Hair jewelry - Frond and On Necklace, Modcloth
Silver wedges - model’s own
Floral Shoulder piece - Green and Gold
All Over Elegance cream chiffon and lace dress - Sz 14, Modcloth
Rose Quartz necklace - LovelyMusings Etsy
Snake Arm Band - model’s own
Lace Tights - model’s own
Floral Doc Martens - model’s own
Floral headpiece - Green and Gold
All the details
- Kelly’s art tumblr. Kelly’s curation tumblr. Kelly’s band.
- Rachel’s high-praised food blog, Dinner Was Delicious.
- Lauren’s art portfolio and personal tumblr
- I think you all know me, Amanda but you should follow my instagram!
A mix of retro and modern is a fun way to enjoy the beach this summer.
Check out this Wanelo story I created with some adorable Modcloth pieces - this cute plus size cherry-print swimsuit comes in a variety of sizes up to 26. I’ve paired it with black/white accessories and gold jewelry. And sometimes you like to put your cherries away, so there’s a great cute plus size black sheer cover-up with cut-outs for a sweet beach look.